The name of the game is: bullying. Or in other cases: bossing - which is the same as bullying, with the difference that it comes from you boss...
how could I let it come so far....?!?!??
how many of us are dealing with that silently?
how do others cope with that?
and how can bullying (or bossing) consume all of your energy until there's nothing left from who you have been?
how can it ruin everything in your life?
why do people decide to become bullyers and does it make them really happy? Or do they somehow feel better, safer, when destroying the life of others?
what kind of personality lies behind that and at which point in their life did they understand or decide, they need to do this way?
is it a sort of a revenge? Against their old enemies from their past?
do these people really live, or are they just stuck with their own past and have no self-critic to see hiw they behave in the present?
do they care about the present at all?
or do they fear something?
what is their motivation and how can that become a no-trigger for them any more, so they don't destroy others' lives?
how can you help them to let go of it, so they let the world be what it is, without their destructive contribution?
I guess you can not provide sufficient trust, as they don't trust to anyone, there is not enough trust they would accept to clear away their mistrust.
what do others think? How do other see these people? What are they missing so that they need to bully?
